I did it!

I have so much to rant about today, let me see if I can do this in any semblance of order. As I stated yesterday, I have been down about my weight being up. I decided to join WW. As I make this decision I try to create a support system of friends and family. And you want to know what they all say? Oh, you're not fat. (Yes, I am.) Oh, you don't need to lose 40 pounds (Yes, I do.)

Note to all my friends and family - This is not supportive. This is not even remotely supportive. This is so far from Supportive that you can't even see Supportive from where you are standing.

This got me thinking. Why? Why do we think that when someone shares something like this, the first thing we should do is dismiss them? If I hated my hair color, people would support me visiting my stylist for a dye job, right? If I hated my wardrobe, girlfriends would line up to shop with me. But admit to being fat (ugh, gasp, the horror!) and people instantly shut down.

Now, of course, I don't actually want any of my friends to say, "Yeah, you're a cow." But, something more along the lines of, "Hey, that's great! You go for it!" would be nice.

I ran into a woman I know at the meeting last night. Did she say, "What are you doing here? You're not fat!" No, she asked how long I'd been coming to meetings, did I always go on Wednesday, how was I doing? I told her it was my first meeting. She told me it was her second meeting and she'd be coming on Wednesdays, so yay, we will see each other and have a buddy at the meetings.

So is it that Fat People support Fat People?

Not necessarily. Sometimes the worst saboteurs are overweight people themselves. Why? I think because misery loves company. If a fat friend loses weight and you don't, does that make you more fat? Is that why we keep feeding our fat friends? Is that why we tell them they aren't fat and don't need WW?

Case in point? I just got an email from someone who shall remain nameless. She knows where I was last night, but makes no mention of it in her email, no good luck today, no enjoy your gallon of water jokes. Maybe I'm just a whiner. Maybe I care too much what other people think? Maybe I have rotten friends. Just kidding.

Could it be that society as a whole is getting fatter and fatter and now you have to be supremely obese for people to think you need to lose a few?

In any case, I'm off to the Grocery Store. I need more milk and some veggies for my salad today!